Leaning in to Conflict
Online realtime Course 4 Sessions – 17 Oct – 14 Nov:
How do we build capacity to be with conflict in creative and generative ways, with kindness and courage at the center?
How can we be and work with the intensity and creative potential of complexity, confusion, and difference?
What are we learning about working in the liminal space between conflict and collaboration?
Conflict like fire can burn, illuminate or transform, depending on we handle it. In this course we explore how to lean in to the fire of conflict and work with it, and each other, with greater skill, respect and care. Leaning in to conflict – including the pain and confusion that often accompany it – and staying with it, can help us learn and connect more deeply with ourselves and each other.
We have all experienced conflict that hurts. So it is natural to react to it by “flight” or “fight.” We are exploring a fundamentally different way: to “engage” conflict creatively; to forge understanding and cooperation from within it.
We invite you to join this exploration and deepening practice of creative conflict engagement that can help us collaborate better, improve your relationships and ultimately make peace with conflict.
In this course we explore:
- What conflict is: looking at it through a personal, interpersonal and systems lens.
- How to slow down our automatic fight/flight responses and engage conflict more mindfully and creatively.
- We look at changing our attitudes toward conflict, exploring the necessary role that it can play in our lives and relationships.
- We explore cultivating embodied practices that allow us to be more creative and courageous when faced with difference and disagreement.
Who is this course for?
This training is intended for people working with others in any context whether in teams, organizations, families, educational institutions and any other collaborative efforts. This invitation is particularly relevant for those working more with process, participation and engagement. Leaning in to Conflict is for you, if you :
- Find yourself challenged or triggered by others in your personal or professional life .
- Work with teams or groups that regularly experience unproductive conflict.
- Are working with human resources or relationships.
- Are wondering how to create more peaceful societies.
4 Wednesdays | October 17th, 24th, 31st & Nov 14th | 9.00- 11.00 AM Pacific Time
- Pacific time: 9.00
- Mountain time: 10.00
- East Coast time: 11.00
- UK: 17.00
- Central Europe: 18.00
- Eastern Europe: 19.00
In our online learning environments: Zoom, Facebook, & Beehive Production’s Platform
We know that those of you who feel attracted to this course come from all over the world, and financial resources are different depending on income levels in different parts of the world, industries, and life situations.
So we offer a scale of prices to chose from, trusting that everyone will pay what they can and a little bit more, honoring the work of creating this course and being realistic about your economic reality.
Need some orientation? Consider contributing what you would normally pay for a 2-day workshop in your context.
- Price option 1: 100 USD
- Price Option 2: 250 USD
- Price Option 3: 350 USD
Team discount for teams of 3 or more: 40% on the price best reflecting the value of the course in your context.
Nina is a mindful Conflict Coach and Integral Facilitator. In her work, she catalyses the learning and growth of individual, teams and organizations with the juice in conflict. She serves purpose-driven people, initiatives and organizations realize their self-/leadership potential to transform conflict, culture and systems, and collaborate effectively and meaningful towards a shared vision. She is a Art of Hosting Practitioner, trained in Conflict Transformation with IICP and a passionate student of Diane Hamilton. Over the past 15 years, she has worked in Collaborative Innovation Processes, Conflict Transformation, Leadership Development and Multi-stakeholder Engagement with diverse individuals, political parties, NGOs, Foundations, the European Commission, Cities and Civil Movements in Europe, India, Israel/ Palestine and Afghanistan.
Rowan is working to bring conversations that matter into all aspects of life and our society. He is an Aikido and Art of Hosting Practitioner, a Kaospilot, he is trained in the Disciplines of Peace and in Strategic Leadership towards Sustainability. He is currently co-developing the “Practising for Peace Dojo” with young ex-combatants in Colombia and supporting the creation of resilient and creative rural communities.
“Conflicts may be the sources of defeat, lost life and a limitation of our potentiality but they may also lead to greater depth of living and the birth of more far-reaching unities, which flourish in the tensions that engender them.” Karl Jaspers
Session 1 October 17th – Conflict and me?
In this opening session we will begin to learn to safely flex our “conflict engagement” muscles. Learning to engage conflict and mine it for its creative potential is a challenging and promising process. It is a way to reduce immediate flight-fight-freeze responses and develop a fundamentally different way of leaning in, learning from and harnessing conflict’s heat as we seek its light.
We will explore:
- Engaging Conflict and its hidden potential
- Inviting engagement
- Personal development through conflict encounter
- Conflict as vehicle for discovering need, purpose and principles
Session 2 October 24th – Engage with others
In this session, we will take a deeper look into the subtleties of human interaction and what happens between people and groups when conflict and intensity arise. The more we include when engaging in conflict, the more opportunities we evoke for working with it creatively. We can shift hardened dynamics taking different perspectives, including more of our own and others’ experience, and harnessing resources to move forward from listening deeply, being present and leaning in to what is difficult. Often, conflict is not the problem, our ways of working with it are. We will explore together how the “other” can become not the enemy but our worthy opponent with whom we can practice and grow.
We will explore:
- Sameness and difference and how they impact our human nervous system
- Emotions, our triggers and how we react or respond
- Listening with presence and grace
- Taking perspectives – expanding what’s possible
- The role of identity in conflict
- Integrative problem solving
Session 3, October 31st – Conflict and Collaboration
If we flip over the coin of conflict, we often discover goals on the other side. Conflicts are usually about the past; goals are commonly about the future. Conflicts are often born out of unmet goals and the frustrated needs, narratives and values they are built upon. At a deeper level conflicts are also about ways individuals and their groups and communities feel that their identities are vulnerable or undermined. In this session we will explore ways goal conflicts and identity conflicts regularly reinforce each other in a vicious cycle and how this cycle can be reversed in to a virtuous cycle of cooperative goal seeking and positive individual and group identity development.
We will explore:
- Engaging conflict to foster cooperation
- The Power of Why in collaborative work
- Rothman’s ROI Levels of Conflict Iceberg model
- Identity based conflict and cooperation
Session 4, November 14th – My role in Conflicts in the World
Democracy is “about organizing conflict and living with conflict” (Ralf Dahrendorf)
We find conflict at every level and scale of our society. Some conflicts are small and close to us whereas others are big, complex and overwhelming.
We can work towards changing our culture to integrating conflict to a way that can shift whole organizations and communities by engaging conflict. We need to start with ourselves, but we don’t need to end with ourselves.
In this session we will focus on how we take an active stance starting small and still keeping the bigger picture and context in mind, making a difference in the world around us.
We will explore:
- Conflict through a systems lens: self, group and inter group peacemaking.
- What is the context that we are part of and the reality we live within?
- How is my practice reflected in the world?
- What does it mean to build peace?